After a few years of marriage, and no pregnancy, we decided to consult doctors. We learned that as a couple we have infertility and doctors immediately wanted to send us for an IVF consultation and surgical procedures. The doctor literally was speechless when we told him at the appointment that would not be necessary.
We had already begun the process of searching out ways to become parents and had attended family building conferences. With the knowledge we gained and listening to the personal experiences other people had shared, we decided that what was (and still is) most important to us was to be parents-whether genetically related or not to our children. We did not want to pursue complicated procedures or anything invasive in order to build our family. There was only one option that would guarantee us to be parents-and that was (and still is) ADOPTION!
We spent months researching adoption agencies and attorneys. We wanted to make sure that any adoption we would complete would be:
2) that the expectant family would have ongoing counseling and support (even after birth) and
3) that the expectant family would be supported by the attorney and/or agency whether they chose to parent or to place their baby.
With all that in mind, we chose an agency out of Minneapolis and excitedly began our application and homestudy process. We eventually brought home Allison in April 2013, and we have an open adoption with her birth mother.